tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post2218608615670138087..comments2023-11-05T04:05:03.588-08:00Comments on A Chronic Dose | A blog about chronic illness, healthcare, and writing.: Bed Rest, Boundaries, and Balancing Chronic IllnessLauriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10392908564921877962noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-82018285287429075732010-07-29T06:06:29.475-07:002010-07-29T06:06:29.475-07:00Thank you for writing this post. My husband has Ps...Thank you for writing this post. My husband has Psoriatic Arthritis, and he struggles with wanting to be there for his family and to help friends, but at the same time, take care of himself. Praying you, your mother and daughter are doing well.Young Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11095895299899127666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-83146797178399928652010-07-26T08:07:28.882-07:002010-07-26T08:07:28.882-07:00My goodness! My heart goes out to you and I will b...My goodness! My heart goes out to you and I will be thinking all the best thoughts for your mother and to help those 7 weeks go by as fast as possible. <br /><br />I'm sure your mother wants her granddaughter to be just as safe as her daughter so - as much as you feel like you may have to chose being a good mom over a good daughter, I am sure you're doing both. <br /><br />- miss waxie<br />http://acomiclifeindeed.wordpress.comMiss Waxiehttp://acomiclifeindeed.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-72783405278762097742010-07-19T18:34:24.961-07:002010-07-19T18:34:24.961-07:00Lie in there! Keep that baby percolating as long a...Lie in there! Keep that baby percolating as long as you can. <br /><br />Bedrest can be extremely difficult, both for the person stuck on the couch, and for the spouse. After winding up on bedrest for two pregnancies, I can definitely say that no matter how much stuff you think you've got to do to keep you busy, there will be moments where you would give anything to be able to get up and run around like normal. Bedrest is exhaustingly difficult, even though it sounds at first like permission to go on vacation, and high risk pregnancies can be so stressful and you wind up with more time than you think just to think and worry and drive yourself nuts. <br /><br />Make sure you take time to take care of yourself all the way - physically and emotionally. Surround yourself with supportive people, give yourself permission to feel a whole range of emotions without judgement.<br /><br />And, on a more practical note, keep a cooler by the bed/couch with drinks, snacks, and treats, plus the phone and books and magazines and a computer, and if you are crafty, some crafty stuff you can do while lying down. Also, don't be afraid to use pillows to get comfy. Lots and lots of pillows. :) A pillow between your knees and one in the small of your back can boost your comfort level immensely.Andihttp://kidsbyhand.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-46687289972807704202010-07-19T16:52:48.417-07:002010-07-19T16:52:48.417-07:00Laurie, .you are as coherent as ever. Just wanted...Laurie, .you are as coherent as ever. Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you. And I appreciate the encouraging posts you've left on my blog recently - sorry I haven't had a chance to respond. So sorry to hear about your mom. Glad you and the baby are doing well.Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13910940045470516414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-45059455938185063842010-07-19T13:30:26.319-07:002010-07-19T13:30:26.319-07:00Wow, Laurie. Hang in there! I will be thinking of ...Wow, Laurie. Hang in there! I will be thinking of you and your family.elizabethhttp://fogcitywriter.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-18628428955286856892010-07-19T08:32:35.515-07:002010-07-19T08:32:35.515-07:00I have had to put my own health needs above being ...I have had to put my own health needs above being there for other family members before, so I can (sort of) sympathize. I've definitely had times when I couldn't be there for others as I wanted to be, and wish you could do what you'd rather do. But I know you're doing the best you can for you, your baby, and your mom (even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way). It's just one of those times when balance seems impossible, so you just do the best you can. I'm thinking good thoughts for you, and am available by computer almost always, if you need to chat. Big hugs!Never That Easyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008749218695113192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-72504389741226084082010-07-19T07:59:52.305-07:002010-07-19T07:59:52.305-07:00it's never easy, is it?
I've been through...it's never easy, is it?<br /><br />I've been through a parent in the ICU with a long road ahead and know a little of what you're feeling, although at the time, I could be there. To be a good daughter, to be a good mom and to have those to be completely different things has got to be difficult (and that has to be the understatement of the year).<br /><br />Sending you strength.Lene Andersenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11223128667829847717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-48675096383620422632010-07-18T22:57:46.439-07:002010-07-18T22:57:46.439-07:00Oh my goodness, Laurie! My prayers are SO with you...Oh my goodness, Laurie! My prayers are SO with you all. I am so sorry to hear about it being your mom who has had such a health crisis and I know she must be feeling the same way about wanting to be there for you as you want to be there for her. <br /><br />I have discovered that during my own health setbacks I am most worried about MY son and my mom is most worried about me... because we all worry about how everything in life will affect our children. That creates some stress, but also the need for communication and grace, because mamas always do put kiddos first and sometimes if grandmas are there everything gets thrown a bit off kilter.<br /><br />I don't know exactly how you have the ability to write so clearly during all this, but I admire your sense of humor and that you are still writing and working on your book. <br /><br />Incidentally, we adopted our son at birth and the night we brought him home, my mom was in the hospital having surgery (very unusual; I was a bit bummed too, we'd waited 2 years!) and my first book arrived on our doorstep the next day. <br /><br />I'd been working on it for months and they happened to be printed and shipped out right about then. After the baby shower, all the friends and grandmas set up an assembly line; one held josh, I signed books, one bubble wrapped it, one stuffed envelopes etc, and then the dads all took a truckload of about 200 envelopes to the post office. <br /><br />I will never forget the irony--but also the joy in it all. If you ever want to chat via phone just let me know!Lisa Chttp://www.restministries.comnoreply@blogger.com