tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post6502390193136274100..comments2023-11-05T04:05:03.588-08:00Comments on A Chronic Dose | A blog about chronic illness, healthcare, and writing.: So What About the Healthy One?Lauriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10392908564921877962noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-22312738564970584322007-10-27T12:13:00.000-07:002007-10-27T12:13:00.000-07:00Wonderful blog.Wonderful blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-18336920712764497342007-09-25T16:30:00.000-07:002007-09-25T16:30:00.000-07:00I'm just a random visitor, pointed to this post by...I'm just a random visitor, pointed to this post by the "grand rounds" over at Kevin MD (I think). <BR/><BR/>Just wanted to let you know that I came close to shedding a tear reading this, and not from sadness. <BR/><BR/>Your words rang through clear and true, and I wish the best for you both.<BR/><BR/>-EEJAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-13357875643462771932007-09-19T21:19:00.000-07:002007-09-19T21:19:00.000-07:00Your hubby sounds awesome! Give him a big (((HUG))...Your hubby sounds awesome! Give him a big (((HUG))) from me. It's great to hear about those of us who found love when we were sick. <BR/><BR/>My hubby inherited my sicknesses - poor guy, but he's sticking with me and that makes me love him even more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-9549916553644373522007-09-19T14:24:00.000-07:002007-09-19T14:24:00.000-07:00Wow. You really put into words a lot of what I've ...Wow. You really put into words a lot of what I've been feeling. I'm very lucky to have a supportive husband who does virtually everything -- childcare, housework, cooking, yardwork. Everything. I feel so blessed, even while adjusting to what we fear is something that won't go away. (I'm still awaiting definite diagnosis. Lots of tests, etc. Few answers, other than it's an autoimmune disease.)<BR/><BR/>A good marriage is a wonderful thing and, sadly, so rare. I'm glad you have one, and that you're both able to appreciate each other.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-44977480898215980162007-09-18T12:42:00.000-07:002007-09-18T12:42:00.000-07:00What a great tribute to John! You are a lucky wif...What a great tribute to John! You are a lucky wife, just as he's lucky to have you.<BR/><BR/>I often wonder about my future, if I could ever find anybody who'll be able to see past all of my health issues and still be accepting of me. Who could love me. (And I don't mean my parents.)<BR/><BR/>It's so nice to hear of couples that are making it work.Never That Easyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008749218695113192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-37724824328358021972007-09-17T15:28:00.000-07:002007-09-17T15:28:00.000-07:00This is an amazing post Laurie, and it's completel...This is an amazing post Laurie, and it's completely true. Nobody ever asks those close to us how they are doing with all of it. Your husband sounds <I>amazing</I>, you are lucky to have him. I hope my husband is half as crazy!jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05665566227297863569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-39940335907188630072007-09-17T14:52:00.000-07:002007-09-17T14:52:00.000-07:00I meant to add... kudos to John, your husband, for...I meant to add... kudos to John, your husband, for everything he does!wellspousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15096969513372578979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-6443888909492293662007-09-17T14:49:00.000-07:002007-09-17T14:49:00.000-07:00Laurie:Thanks for this very perceptive post. You a...Laurie:<BR/><BR/>Thanks for this very perceptive post. You and your husband are very lucky that you have such a close relationship. I know whereof you speak, it was like that with my late first wife, I could tell when she was feeling "off," and I became like her second thought -- confirming voice to remind her that it's OK to take it easy, and rest when the illness was doing its thing. Even now, with my second wife having had a small stroke this year, I recognize the more subtle, emotional results, which no-one else does -- but alas, it's not possible to do much about them, except to give her confirmation! The Well Spouse Association has been a tremendous help for me in this respect, to be able to take breaks myself, in order to be a better caregiver.wellspousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15096969513372578979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-6414509811740073592007-09-17T14:13:00.000-07:002007-09-17T14:13:00.000-07:00Interesting reading, Laurie.My late husband had br...Interesting reading, Laurie.<BR/><BR/>My late husband had bronchiectasis and (as you point out), tho' his disease might have been invisible to others (at least until he was on O2 24/7), it wasn't to me - and actually I know I helped him keep it invisible to others (I guess that is "help", but sometimes looking back now I wonder about that....)<BR/><BR/>Nice of you to give your husband's role public recognition. And thanks for the link to Well Spouse Org which helped keep me sane and my marriage sound and mutually loving. (I will never forget his last look of unconditional love)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-15689146110390440742007-09-17T08:28:00.000-07:002007-09-17T08:28:00.000-07:00Beautifully written. You are lucky to have each ot...Beautifully written. You are lucky to have each other.Terry at Counting Sheephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060732608278736543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-22090610165390085872007-09-17T08:15:00.000-07:002007-09-17T08:15:00.000-07:00Fabulous post. I am also lucky to have a crazy hu...Fabulous post. <BR/><BR/>I am also lucky to have a crazy husband. <BR/><BR/>Although chronic illness can put tremendous strain on a marriage I like to think it has built an even stronger bond between me and my husband. <BR/><BR/>Even though there is fear, sacrifice and struggle - we are left in doubt of our love and devotion to each other.<BR/><BR/>Whenever I shake my head and think "how can he love me when I am like this?" I have to remind myself that I do him a disservice in thinking so little of him and his prospensity to love and care for me, and to help me to be the best I can whatever the circumstances. <BR/><BR/>And I remind myself that if the roles were reversed I would be there for him fully and wholly (though perhaps not with quite as much grace or charm!).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-13612897031744492842007-09-16T21:47:00.000-07:002007-09-16T21:47:00.000-07:00Good post Laurie. I like knowing more about you a...Good post Laurie. I like knowing more about you and what is really going on. John is a rock star. You are too.Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07307937378956236480noreply@blogger.com