tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post7760496477915966298..comments2023-11-05T04:05:03.588-08:00Comments on A Chronic Dose | A blog about chronic illness, healthcare, and writing.: Independent...Or Just In Denial?Lauriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10392908564921877962noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-62102756596933644552007-07-07T08:19:00.000-07:002007-07-07T08:19:00.000-07:00Hi,you have a very interesting blog :-)I hope you ...Hi,<BR/><BR/>you have a very interesting blog :-)<BR/><BR/>I hope you don't mnd but I've linked to it on my main blog.<BR/><BR/>Philip<BR/>www.disabilityblog.org<BR/>www.disabled-help.orgPhilip.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01385613327362296432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-80566530939012346772007-07-05T11:29:00.000-07:002007-07-05T11:29:00.000-07:00Beautiful. (From a lupus and Crohn's patient.)Beautiful. (From a lupus and Crohn's patient.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-6169991162500260392007-07-04T16:36:00.000-07:002007-07-04T16:36:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing your story. You are so right...Thank you for sharing your story. You are so right by accepting help we lose the "helpless" and gain some independence.<BR/>jeiseajeiseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00014643458189789888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-45349826393800915422007-07-04T11:33:00.000-07:002007-07-04T11:33:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for sharing your story. I loved ...Thank you so much for sharing your story. I loved your metaphors!Migraine Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13274542138991800024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-81658760753376031452007-07-03T18:59:00.000-07:002007-07-03T18:59:00.000-07:00I have spent the past 25 months dealing with a neu...I have spent the past 25 months dealing with a neurolgical problem that is a literal pain in the face.It was hard to ask for help to say the very least. To make matters worse it is a rare problem so everyone thinks just because I look good, I feel good. I agree with what htcwp said in asking for help I feel that I am doing better and things are a bit more saner. A burden not carried alone does seem lighter. Thank-you for your post. P.S. I am starting my pre-med studies in the fall. My long term goal is to go into pain management. Like my friend says, "Do what you know" :o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-43619939308416665072007-07-03T16:06:00.000-07:002007-07-03T16:06:00.000-07:00I used to be in chronic constant pain with no end ...I used to be in chronic constant pain with no end in sight. I coped by shutting down and turning away almost everyone in my life. I wrecked my long term relationship.<BR/><BR/>I got a motor cortex stimulator which controls the pain most of the time. I'm still rebuilding my life. I've been able to reconnect with some friends I thought I lost. Others I've lost for good.<BR/><BR/>I started a new relationship. When my pain does flare up, I resort back to my default of shutting down and turning away. Boyfriend is so wonderful by refusing to go away. My compromise is to let him do things to "help", and he's there when the pain passes.<BR/><BR/>He's always willing to show off my "special" conditions to anyone that shows half an interest. And I know that he isn't scared off and will be there.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02251245358892972101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-28615864754678128962007-07-03T00:52:00.000-07:002007-07-03T00:52:00.000-07:00all I can say is that I truly understand- and even...all I can say is that I truly understand- and even though it took a lot of courage to cut back and ask for help still today it doesn't always feel that way. thanks for sharing your experiences!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-40133714413588272782007-07-02T11:21:00.000-07:002007-07-02T11:21:00.000-07:00Laurie, thanks so much for your powerful and movin...Laurie, thanks so much for your powerful and moving story.<BR/><BR/>Most of us who have been in the "experiencing-pain" business have probably also had that slap-in-the-face moment. When we can finally overcome our resistance to accepting help, we actually do better and live more sanely.<BR/><BR/>Great metaphors, too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com