tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post870865623372517434..comments2023-11-05T04:05:03.588-08:00Comments on A Chronic Dose | A blog about chronic illness, healthcare, and writing.: Synergy (in an unexpected way)Lauriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10392908564921877962noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-89328778290118689472009-08-14T13:03:32.394-07:002009-08-14T13:03:32.394-07:00I guess this is one of the ways I'm "Luck...I guess this is one of the ways I'm "Lucky"....<br />My husband has osteoarthritis in a very damaged hip, and RA runs in his family, so we both have chronic pain, and although it's tough feeling helpless, it's nice to understand both sides of chronic illness, we understand each other a lot more than we would if only one of us had chronic pain....<br />JAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-85177573619464266652009-08-14T08:42:04.991-07:002009-08-14T08:42:04.991-07:00Laurie and Kairol,
You are both luckier than you ...Laurie and Kairol,<br /><br />You are both luckier than you can ever know. In all my years as a chronically ill person, I have seen more marriages that ended than that survived. And of those that did survive, many were very unhappy, unpleasant situations.<br /><br />It takes a lot to be able to handle all the stresses that chronic illness places on a relationship, as you yourself are seeing from the other side right now Laurie. <br /><br />I wish your loved one peace and healing. They are lucky to have someone like you around, because even in your frustration I am sure you a great support and help.<br /><br />I am glad you have blogged about this issue again, it something that doesn't get enough attention and needs to be discussed more thoroughly.Maureen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01825595311970223353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-69956240473048569012009-08-14T08:26:12.821-07:002009-08-14T08:26:12.821-07:00You captured those feelings so well, Kairol. Liste...You captured those feelings so well, Kairol. Listening is incredibly powerful, and so important. Except when it just doesn't feel like enough...<br /><br />We are both fortunate to have such amazing people who can deal with the no-man's-land so well.Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10392908564921877962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25073771.post-60654971785562413302009-08-14T08:21:11.580-07:002009-08-14T08:21:11.580-07:00One of the greatest lessons I learned from traveli...One of the greatest lessons I learned from traveling around the country and interviewing young adults cancer patients for my book is the power of listening. <br /><br />To just being with someone in their pain, confusion, out of control situation is a profound gift. Or at least I thought so until this winter when my husband was facing serious health issues. "He just has to sit by my side unable to do anything? How does he cope with this feeling of nothingness," I thought as I began to understand what he goes through in relationship to taking care of me, his wife with cancer. <br /><br />Standing in his shoes I could not believe how amazingly great he is at dealing with no-man's-land - that place of the patient, where nobody else can go and outsiders feel utterly helpless. <br /><br />All my best to you and your loved one.<br /><br />Best,<br /><br />Kairol<br /> http://everythingchangesbook.com/Kairol Rosenthalhttp://everythingchangesbook.com/noreply@blogger.com